Whose life are you living?
It's a simple question, with sometimes a very complex answer. Often people will tell you they are living their own life. That's true to a certain extent, but to a large extent most of us are living a life molded by those around us...our friends, family, and our society. But if you got to choose, are you living the life you want? What is the difference in those who 'make it' as opposed to those of us who are just average?
I believe much of it has to do with our perspective on life, do you see opportunity where others only see trouble? Even more important, do you follow through with the opportunities? This is one of those intangible things that we learn from those around us when we are growing up. But even if we didn't get these lessons as children, who says it is too late to learn? A large part of our society lives in the victim mentality, we are taught that it's not our fault; it's how our parents raised us, how we were teased in school, the tragedies that happened in our lives. I believe all these things play a huge role in our lives, but I also believe that we can use these things as catalyst for positive changes in our lives. So your parents never taught you about money, now is as good of time as any to learn...and to teach your children. Have friends that treat you like crap? Time to start standing up for yourself, and maybe time to look for friends who will bring positive changes to your life. I'm not saying to ditch your old friends, but it may happen they start ditching you if you change the terms of your relationship. Your ex is trying to make your life miserable...ignore what doesn't really affect your life, if it involves divorce/child custody issues...let the court handle it, the more rational you are the better things will work out for you.
The point of this is take charge of your life, you gotta start where you are now, but if you take charge now just think where you can be in 5-10-15 years from now. 6 years ago I was $40,000 in debt with a credit rating that left creditors laughing at me, 2.5 years ago I paid off my debts and bought a house, I did this as a single mother. I'm not saying I did everything right, I'm still learning...but I'm much further ahead now than I was 6 years ago and you know what I'm gonna keep working on things, only I can change my life for me.
